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Acknowledgments |
xiii |
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Foreword |
xv |
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Introduction |
xvii |
| 1. |
The "Coach Approach" to
Management |
1 |
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Redefining Management |
3 |
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The Shift from Manager to Coach |
4 |
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Management Paradoxes |
6 |
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Coaching Conditions |
6 |
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Common Misconceptions about
Coaching |
7 |
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Truth or Consequences |
10 |
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The Question of Time |
12 |
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When Coaching Is Called for |
13 |
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How to Know if Coaching Is the
Solution |
15 |
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The 7 Steps to Trust-Based
Management |
16 |
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What's Your Coaching Quotient? |
16 |
| 2. |
The Relationship between Manager
and Employee |
21 |
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More Powerful than You Think |
22 |
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Built-in Barriers |
23 |
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Characteristics of a Healthy
Relationship |
24 |
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Getting Yourself Out of the Way |
27 |
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Defining Responsibilities |
28 |
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Honoring Boundaries |
29 |
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More than Your Words |
32 |
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Relationship Traps |
33 |
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How to Start a Coaching
Relationship |
34 |
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What You Need to Know |
36 |
| 3. |
Step 1: Seek the Truth |
39 |
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Why the Truth Is Hard to Come by |
40 |
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Establishing the Basis for
Observation |
41 |
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Getting to Know Your People |
42 |
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Too Quick to Judge |
44 |
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Sources of Information |
47 |
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Observing with the Eye of an
Eagle |
47 |
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Characteristics of Good Observers |
48 |
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The Perceptions of Others |
49 |
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Information through Assessment
Tools |
54 |
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Putting the Pieces Together |
57 |
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Checklist for Information
Gathering |
57 |
| 4. |
Step 2: Give Feedback |
61 |
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Frequency of Feedback |
62 |
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Preparing for a Feedback Session |
64 |
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Setting the Stage |
67 |
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Tell Them What You See, Think,
and Feel |
68 |
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Keeping Them Engaged |
75 |
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Be Direct and to the Point |
76 |
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Don't Sweat the Small Stuff |
78 |
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When to Wrap It Up |
79 |
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Anatomy of a Feedback Session |
80 |
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Feedback Self-Evaluation
Checklist |
81 |
| 5. |
Step 3: Create a Vision and Plan |
87 |
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The Antidote for Fear |
88 |
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Gaining Commitment |
89 |
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Primary Issues |
90 |
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Preparing to Plan |
93 |
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Steps to Creating the Plan |
94 |
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Looking toward the Future |
96 |
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Evaluating the Present/Determining
the Gaps |
98 |
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Setting Goals |
105 |
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Developing the Plan |
106 |
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Revising the Plan |
108 |
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Developmental Plan Checklist |
109 |
| 6. |
Step 4: Break through Resistance |
113 |
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Self-Esteem Is the Issue |
115 |
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Compassionate Coaching |
117 |
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Signs of Resistance |
118 |
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Techniques for Reducing
Resistance |
120 |
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Sticking with It |
125 |
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Dealing with Emotions--Theirs and
Yours |
126 |
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Body Language Basics |
128 |
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Knowing When to Quit |
130 |
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Dealing with Resistance Checklist |
131 |
| 7. |
Step 5: Observe and Mirror |
135 |
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The Power of Attention |
136 |
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The Basis of Your Observation |
138 |
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What to Look for |
139 |
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Feedback from Others |
141 |
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Considering the Context |
141 |
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Finding Time |
142 |
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Updating the Plan |
143 |
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Ongoing Observation and Mirroring
Checklist |
143 |
| 8. |
Step 6: Teach and Guide |
147 |
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Motivating People to Learn |
147 |
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How to Know if Learning Has
Occurred |
149 |
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Developing Skills |
150 |
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Watching for the Coachable
Moments |
152 |
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Sticking with It |
155 |
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Breaking Old Habits |
156 |
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Managing Failure |
157 |
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Checklist for Teaching and
Guiding |
158 |
| 9. |
Step 7: Recognize, Celebrate, and
Reinforce |
161 |
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Sincerity Is Key |
162 |
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Don't Praise and Hit |
162 |
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Celebrate the Moment |
163 |
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Watch What You Praise |
163 |
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Make It Personal |
164 |
| |
Don't Make Promises You Can't
Keep |
165 |
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Balancing Recognition |
166 |
| |
Getting Comfortable Giving Praise |
166 |
| |
Recognition Checklist |
166 |
| 10. |
Coaching Challenging
Personalities |
169 |
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The Passive-Aggressive Person |
170 |
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The Angry, Belligerent Person |
172 |
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The Social Gossip |
175 |
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The Overly Sensitive,
Conscientious Person |
177 |
| |
Checklist for Coaching
Challenging Personalities |
180 |
| 11. |
External Coaching for Managers |
183 |
| |
The Higher People Go, the Less
Coaching They Seem to Get |
183 |
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What Is Executive Coaching? |
184 |
| |
When to Use an External Coach |
185 |
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Who Needs an Executive Coach? |
185 |
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New Leader Coaching |
187 |
| |
Participants in the Coaching
Relationship |
188 |
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Confidentiality Is Key |
189 |
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Selecting the Right Coach |
189 |
| |
Checklist for Hiring the Right
Coach |
190 |
| 12 |
Coaching High-Performance Teams |
193 |
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Getting People in Right
Relationship |
194 |
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How to Create a Team |
195 |
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Responsibilities of the Manager |
197 |
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A Whole New Set of Skills |
198 |
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Application of The 7 Steps to
Trust-Based Management Process |
199 |
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Team Coaching Checklist |
202 |
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Conclusion |
205 |
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Further Reading |
207 |
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Index |
211 |